You’ve heard it more than you’ve heard ‘fake news’ last year. It’s such a trend right now to cut every one negative off and leave them in 2017, but when no one is left to cut off, what are you gonna do? Should you cut yourself off for complaining about Monday mornings? Here is my guide on how to incorporate the phrase CORRECTLY into your resolutions this 2018.
WHAT MAKES A PERSON TOXIC
I am a bad, bad cryer. I moan all the time without even realising it. It’s like I keep the good comments to myself and only share the bad ones. (since buying a gratitude journal, I’ve become a bit better at this). But does this make me a Toxic person? Does it shite. This just makes me a moaner. The traits of a toxic person include: manipulative, controlling, judgemental, narcissism and jealousy to name a few. Does this person get possessive if you don’t spend enough time with them? Do they have sly digs at your achievements? These are all bad signs of someone who is toxic.
WHY SO NEGATIVE?
Of course, your friend/partner/whoever could be showing negative behaviour, but before you get the scissors out your kitchen drawer and start making cuts, ask yourself, why is this person being this negative? And then ask them. Approximately 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year so you could be cutting someone off when in reality, they need you more than ever? Maybe this person is, in fact, an asshole or maybe they are suffering and need help. Be clear before you steer clear.
TO CUT OFF OR COMMUNICATE
So you’ve established that this person is exhibiting toxic behaviour towards you. Now do you go in for the chop or is this something you can sort out between the two of you? Of course, cutting off may be cute and funny on social media but in the real world, it’s a basic requirement to have adequate communication skills. Address your issues to this person and you can come to some arrangement; whether it’s to stay away from each other or not it’s your choice.
BEFORE YOU, THE POT, START CALLING THE KETTLE BLACK
We are quick enough to call others out for their wrongdoings but how often do we take a look at ourselves? How much responsibility should we take and when should we take it? How do we know when we ourselves are in wrong? ‘Toxic people quotes’ must be the most searched for thing on google images or pinterest right now but be sure to know when you’re failing impotence or at least have good people around you that call you out when you’re in the wrong. One thing I love about my relationship is how quick my boyfriend is to tell me when I’m acting like a dickhead in certain situations even when I can’t see it myself.
Critical people might be your best friend because they help you grow; just be aware when something is constructive or destructive and you’re good to go.